Comments on: The Creepy Librarian Stalker Hypothesis

By: Jill Brown

Jill Brown — Mon, 06 May 2013 15:31:43 +0000

I am a newly minted librarian and am currently experiencing a stalker. Thank you very much for sharing this…

By: Sarah

Sarah — Mon, 08 Apr 2013 16:09:39 +0000

Done! Thanks for catching that!

By: abdul rahimov

abdul rahimov — Sun, 07 Apr 2013 05:13:11 +0000

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By: Meg

Meg — Sat, 02 Mar 2013 02:45:24 +0000

Thank you for writing this. I am so sorry about all of the utter crap it sounds like you are dealing with. That you have still been willing to put yourself out there and be involved to the extent you have is a testament to newer librarians like me. One of the biggest problems with sexual harassment and assault is the degree to which it is simply shaken off as par for the course or simply not talked about. That you wrote the first post and then decided to revisit such a painful subject to underline how little things have changed is amazing. You should not be expected to trot out your unfortunate and painful experiences for the sake of others, but that you are willing to so eloquently describe these awful experiences as a female public figure is appreciated. I, perhaps naively, like to think that talking about the full extent of the problem is helpful in making change. It is despicable that you’ve had to go through this. Absolutely. But, it is touching that despite distancing yourself from blogging and public engagements, despite all of the incredibly awful things going wrong, you have taken out time to share that things did not magically get better after writing the first post. Unfortunately, they will likely not get magically better after this post. But, in my mind, it makes what you say no less important. I rarely comment directly on blogs, and even further, when I do it is rarely because I agree with the poster. But, I felt so strongly that I needed to let you know that this particular post is deeply appreciated. For what it is worth, you have my sincerest sympathy for all of this crap happening in your life right now.

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By: Michelle

Michelle — Mon, 09 Jul 2012 23:37:33 +0000

I have two chronic abusers right now. One is a man who seems grandfatherly but is way overly touchy feely. He’s tried everything from slapping my hand, massaging my neck, putting his arm around my shoulders or waist. The first time, it completely shocked me, and I didn’t react appropriately. Now when I see him coming, I keep him at arm’s length at all times. Maybe I seem rude, but I go home unviolated.

The other is a potentially mentally disabled man. We’re not sure. He comes in alone and mutters a lot. He stares at the reference librarians. Once he asked me a question, but stared at my chest the whole time. Then one day he caught me in the stacks, and we played a dance around each other until I realized he had no purpose in being there other than to try and run up against me. I left the area quickly.

I’ve reported these incidents to our guard staff. That’s all we can do unless they push it further. My boss recommends I go hide in the back whenever I see these two guys in the library, but that’s a pain. I want to do my job. It makes me angry.

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Mon, 09 Jul 2012 04:09:04 +0000

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By: Michelle Young

Michelle Young — Mon, 06 Feb 2012 18:48:48 +0000

I am still picking my jaw up off of the floor….OMG.

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kind of creepy, dude. at Attempting Elegance — Mon, 06 Feb 2012 18:19:49 +0000

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