If you follow me on the social networks, you might have seen that I decided to dub this past weekend “Crazy, Selfish, Indulgent Weekend.” I chronicled my activities this weekend on Twitter, Facebook, and Google+. I got a lot of questions in all these media about the origin of the weekend, why I was choosing to be public about what I was doing, etc. I even got an email from a journalist asking me if I was trying to start a meme.
I wasn’t, but that being said, I think everyone needs a “Crazy, Selfish, Indulgent Weekend” every now and again. So here’s the skinny: I was feeling spent. I have been giving a lot of myself to others lately, sacrificing a great deal to make others happy, putting myself in a position where I know I’m going to not be happy. And one can only do that for so long… I think many of us in public service tend to be like this — give, give, give…until it damages us.
To rectify that, on Friday night I spontaneously planned my weekend to include as many of my favorite things as possible. There were 13 parts to my two days of awesomeness (and no, I didn’t plan for 13 to be all goth-y and stuff; it just happened). I decided to be public about it for a number of reasons, chief of which was to encourage others to be selfish too…even if only for a little while.
Here is a chronicle of my self-indulgence, copied from my Google+ posts. Judge me if you will, but you know what? It was probably the best weekend I’ve ever had in my life. Feel free to copy and remix!
#SelfishWeekend Part 2: Walking straight past a library branch & not going in to look around.
#SelfishWeekend Part 3: Favorite meal #1 (@ Cha-Ya) – fresh handmade udon noodles w/ vegetable tempura & genmai cha tea.
#SelfishWeekend Part 4: Walking thru the Castro looking at all the beautiful gay boys.
#SelfishWeekend Part 5: Favorite meal #2 (Lilah Belle’s) – organic roasted veggies & hummus (best I’ve ever had).
#SelfishWeekend Part 6: Favorite meal #3 (Herbivore) – soy chicken shawarma.
#SelfishWeekend Part 7: kitten loooooooove
#SelfishWeekend Part 8: Dancing at the Cat Club in SF. Getting my 80s groove on.
#SelfishWeekend Part 10: Driving Highway 1 along the West Marin coast, listening to Bon Iver.
#SelfishWeekend Part 11: Hiking in the redwoods of Mt. Tamalpais.
#SelfishWeekend Part 12: Wading in the icy tidepools of Muir Beach.
#SelfishWeekend Part 13: Attending the Marin Shakespeare Company’s steampunk production of The Tempest.
So yes…that’s what I did. And I’d do it again. I might, perhaps, do all the hiking and other physical activity first, before staying out until 3am dancing I think the decadent food day would have made more sense post-drinking-dancing night. Seriously, though…I think we could all use some more self-love and inward focus. Nurture yourself so you can nurture others. Take some time for yourself. You’ve earned it.